|“I took hundreds of hours of research working with real couples and created a powerful,
step-by-step “Communication Blueprint” that FIRES-UP your passion… SUPERCHARGES
your love… and MELTS THE MILES between you.”
If you’re ready to ELIMINATE the anxiety, self-doubt, loneliness, and
FEAR that DESTROYS long-distance relationships and begin a fun NEW LIFE together, then read on…
You’re in a wonderful relationship. You have so much in common. And you can’t wait to be with each other next.
One small problem: You’re HUNDREDS, even THOUSANDS of miles apart!
Whether it’s school… jobs… family… whatever… the annoying fact remains: YOU CAN’T BE WITH EACH OTHER!
Yet, you love this person. You’re convinced they’re worth waiting for. And you’re confident that you can make it work. (Although sometimes a little doubt might creep in.)
Still, you’re likely experiencing a CRAZY ROLLER COASTER of emotions!
Millions of people in LDR’s (Long Distant Relationships) feel just like you do right now, both men AND women!
… DO YOU FEEL so anxious and desperate to see and talk to your partner that when you get together—after weeks or months apart—you find yourself saying stupid, uptight things that just drive him or her away?
… DO YOU FEEL so needy or dependent on your partner for YOUR emotional well-being… that it makes them want to run away?
… DO YOU FEEL like your emotions start to go CRAZY at even the THOUGHT of your love spending time and enjoying himself without you… around other members of the opposite sex?
… DO YOU FEEL overjoyed to see your partner again… then find yourself fighting and bickering over stupid little things?
… DO YOU FEEL sometimes that you wish you never got emotionally attached… and maybe it would be easier to just walk away than try to overcome your doubts and fears?
… DO YOU FEEL so lonely sometimes that you think about hooking up with that attractive man or woman—just this one time! –then beat yourself up mentally for days or weeks after?
Have you ever had any of these feelings? I bet you have!
LISTEN: If you’re like I was when I was involved in a long-distance relationship, then you’ve experienced at least some of these feelings… over and over again!
In fact, it seems like just yesterday that I was in the same situation you’re in right now, a long-distance relationship. So I know EXACTLY what you’re going through!
But do you know the WORST part?
Knowing that you’re probably screwing up the best thing that ever happened to you—and that you have no idea how to NOT screw it up.
INCREDIBLE! I never thought it would happen to ME—a professional relationship counselor! But… alas… it did…
Hello, my name is Bob Grant. I’m a therapist and a Licensed Professional Counselor. I’ve also been a relationship coach for over 20 years.
During my professional career, I’ve helped hundreds of men and women find and achieve more rewarding, satisfying, relationships. In fact, I’ve become known as, “The Relationship Doctor” by my clients and friends. I have a very successful practice in Atlanta helping my clients keep their love alive, strengthen existing relationships, or rekindling that old spark.
So… you’d think I would be the LAST person to be blindsided by the roller-coaster of emotions that come along with being in a long-distance relationship!
WRONG! It was brutal!
But like you, I’m only human. So while living in Atlanta, Georgia, I met the woman I KNEW I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. Oh, boy… I was giddy with happiness! (You know the feeling, right?!)
There was just one small problem…
The love of my life—my soul mate—owned a thriving business on the other side of the country! OUCH! Worse, I had a busy counseling practice I just couldn’t leave.
So there we were… madly in love… separated by 2,500 long, lonely miles.
I was depressed.
There was NO WAY either of us would consider ending the relationship, though. We were too much in love. But to say the next six months were tough, is an understatement!
Whew… it wasn’t easy. I wanted to be with her so bad it was killing me.
Almost immediately, it seemed, there were awkward silences and tensions between us whenever we saw each other.
It’s so strange! We were always so RELAXED together.
Now… for some reason… we tippy-toed around certain subjects.
Or worse… we found ourselves FIGHTING about STUPID little things that we both knew didn’t matter one bit.
Fact was, I knew we WOULD NOT survive as a couple… IF WE DIDN’T FIGURE THIS OUT!
It wasn’t easy. We both made dumb mistakes. It was a painful trial and error!
THE GOOD NEWS? We got through it!
And now, 12 years and 4 wonderful kids later, I can say it was definitely worth the struggle!
However I’m not sure we would have succeeded… IF we hadn’t had a plan.
And that’s the part that REALLY sucked.
Even with all my education… and all my years of professional experience… I was no closer to understanding the challenges of a long-distance relationship than anyone else.
One day I started to wonder…
“Why is this so HARD for most couples?”
I mean, sure, I missed her terribly.
It was hard enough to get up every day… go to work… pay the bills… and come home to a house without her. (It’s the lonely part… and not knowing what she was doing that killed me!)
But that was just PART of the problem. I realized that I hadn’t been dealing with the emotions that were going on INSIDE me.
And sure, I tried not to fight when we were together, or interrogate her about who she spent her time with when I wasn’t there.
But the question that kept coming up for me was: “Why is it so hard to deal with these things we have going on INSIDE… like insecurity, fear, jealousy, and other psychological challenges?”
Well, one of the answers that I came up with is interesting. And it’s something that I think might help YOU deal with some of these same challenges…
The Shockingly Simple Secret That
Changed Everything for Me
(And how it will help YOU, too)
I’m about to offer you some hard-earned wisdom… as one friend to another. The answer to my problem was astonishingly simple… but it took me a L-O-N-G time to figure out.
You see, when I started trying to solve my own relationship problems, I always began by focusing on the problem itself.
Makes sense, right? Deal with the problem… while the problem is happening.
This was wrong… Wrong… WRONG!
Because I discoverd that when it comes to long-distance relationship issues, if you just “solve” the problem in the moment… you’re not SOLVING the problem! That’s because the next time you’re in the same situation, the SAME PROBLEM comes up again… and you play mental games to “fix” it… until the next time… and the next… and the next.
(Does this sound familiar?)
Then I had this simple realization:
Instead of trying to deal with each individual problem as it happened… I would get far BETTER RESULTS if I knew what to expect before I had the problem in the first place!
Instead of dealing with my out-of-control emotions after I was in the situation (already out of control!), I needed to arm myself with knowledge… and MAKE A PLAN… so I’d be prepared.
This one simple shift in thinking helped me keep my emotions under control, and ultimately SAVED
MY RELATIONSHIP. (No kidding.)
What’s more, the lessons I learned throughout the process have helped make my marriage the strong, vibrant, and wonderfully close relationship it is today… many years later!
Fix the IMPORTANT Things &
All the “Other Stuff” Will
This new mindset allowed me to see that couples in long-distance relationships DIDN’T have to make the same mistakes I did—and which most people do.
IF you’re prepared for the major challenges… IF you know what you’re going to do BEFORE you have a problem… then many of your problems will AUTOMATICALLY solve themselves!
The thing is, every long-distance relationship has very similar challenges. So it’s not the CHALLENGES that create the problems—it’s how each person REACTS to the challenges.
Human beings are complex, and we don’t come with instruction manuals. So one of the most important things you can do is realize that you don’t have to “figure it out” on your own. If you want your relationship to succeed, it’s crucial that you find an expert source of information… and use it.
You don’t need a psychology degree, and you don’t need years of therapy, and you don’t need to spend thousands of dollars. All you need to know is where to start.
That’s where I can help you. Right now.
Because until now, no one put together complete information to help improve and save your long-distance relationship. This was one of my biggest frustrations… there just wasn’t a comprehensive guide for addressing all of the problems you face.
Well, fortunately that problem is in the PAST…
Because I’m Going to Help You
Strengthen Your Relationship
(No matter what “condition” it’s in right now)
FACT: I had the same experiences that you’re going through now. I made the same mistakes you’re making now. And just like you, I struggled to make sense of it all.
And through my journey I became an expert in the area of long-distance relationships that helped me save my relationship… and now you can save your relationship with my personal guide, Long-Distance Love: Secrets to Surviving the Distance Apart.